This Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family
Author: Koe Creation
With a foreword by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff
Publication Date: March 29, 2019
Formats: Trade paperback, Kindle, ePub and PDF
ISBN: 978-1-944934-72-9 (softcover); 978-1-944934-73-6 (ePub); 978-1-944934-74-3 (Kindle); 978-1-944934-75-0 (PDF)
As children, many of us were asked by our mother to do the dishes. Perhaps some of us would need to be asked more than once. Koe Creation would get asked three times, by three different mothers. Crowded parent teacher conferences, queer youth summer camp, and parental adoptions over potluck dinners were typical of Koe’s upbringing in a queer polyamorous family.
Still: all families know conflict, and all hearts know struggle, no matter how loved. While in the spotlight as a “poster child” for the alternative Seattle community, Koe yearned for a realization of themself beyond the “shadow of their tribe.”
This drive for a singular identity led Koe to leave the alt-Seattle scene behind them—first for the vivacious beaches of Hawai’i, and later for the couches of San Francisco—to find the self that no one person, or even one family, could make for them.
This Heart Holds Many is a testament of transformative, communal love, as told by an educator and lifelong learner who has dedicated their life to helping others grasp their extraordinary love.
“If you’re curious for a peek into what it’s really like for kids growing up in a polyamorous family, look no further than this book. In this remarkably vulnerable piece of writing, Koe shares landmarks of their life as a means of answering the most frequently asked questions about poly youth. Highly recommended for anyone considering poly parenthood.”
— Cunning Minx, polyweekly.com
“Koe Creation’s delightful book This Heart Holds Many is perfect for anyone who has wondered how polyamorous families affect children, parents, and those Koe calls ‘parent adjacent.’ In a rare peek into the life of a ‘polykid’ raised by five parents, Koe offers anecdotes from their life with a polytribe. From the pregnant lady sandwich to the chaotic (mis)adventures of young love or the trials and triumphs of adulting, Koe guides readers through the life of a second-generation polyamorous person with charming candor.”
“This is exactly what the world has been waiting for – a raw, honest perspective on what ‘family’ and ‘tribe’ can mean. Koe boldly shares their story and provides a helpful guide for navigating the complexities of polyamorous family structures. This is a must-read for everyone who chooses to live outside the box and create the best life for themselves!”
— Eri Kardos, best-selling author, speaker, and relationship coach
“The question I get a lot as a polyamorous parent is ‘But what about the children?’ Having a firsthand account by someone who lived and loved and learned in a polyamorous household is invaluable to any of us who raise children in the same environment. Bravo!”
Koe Creation has one of the most unique life stories you’ve ever heard, guaranteed. Growing up in a sex-positive, polyamorous family and subsequent communities in Seattle, Washington, Koe learned transparent, non-violent communication, age-appropriate discourse, and sex-positive empowerment at a young age.
After actively teaching sex education and relationship skills among top educators in the USA since Koe was a teenager, they now have a decade’s worth of expertise at being a “professional pervert.” Koe is a frequent cohost of the Polyamory Weekly podcast and presents at conferences all over the United States.