The Game Changer: A memoir of disruptive love
Author: Franklin Veaux
Publication Date: September 23, 2015
Formats: Trade paperback, Kindle and ePub
ISBN: 978-0-9913997-5-8 (paperback); 978-0-9913997-6-5 (ePub)
Price: US$14.99 (paperback); $7.99 (e-book)
Franklin and Celeste’s open marriage seemed perfectly safe—until the day Amber entered his life and showed them why the heart does not obey rules.
To make an open marriage work, Franklin and Celeste knew they needed to make sure no one else ever came between them. That meant there had to be rules. No overnights, no falling in love, and either one of them could ask the other to end an outside relationship if it became too much to deal with. It worked for nearly two decades—and their relentless focus on their own relationship let them turn a blind eye to the emotional wreckage they were leaving behind them.
The rules did not prepare them for Amber.
“I have a question,” Amber would say. And whatever came next would send a wrecking ball through Franklin and Celeste’s comforting illusions. Amber was the first of Franklin’s polyamorous secondary partners to insist on being treated like a person, and the first to peel back the layers of insecurity and fear that surrounded their relationship. Amber was a game changer.
A game-changing relationship is one that uproots and redirects your life. It overthrows your assumptions about who you are and why. It awakens you to possibilities you’d never conceived of. It disrupts. And it is the unspoken elephant in the attractive showroom of polyamorous relationships.
This book is the true story of a game-changing relationship that changed not only Franklin and Celeste’s lives, but the face of the modern polyamory movement.
A game-changing relationship can happen to anyone. How will you handle it when it happens to you?
“This is a quiet story of trial, error and triumph that fundamentally questions everything we think we know about relationships in general, and polyamory in particular.”
—AV Flox, editor-in-chief at Slantist
“Part personal story, part glimpse into the history of modern polyamory, Franklin Veaux’s memoir takes us with him through love and loss, confusion and insight, the whole thing told with humility, humour and grace. What a great read.”
—Andrea Zanin, Sex Geek
“Franklin Veaux, poly cognoscente, has crafted a memoir that is equal parts heartwarming and heartbreaking.”
—Cunning Minx, Polyamory Weekly
“This book’s how Franklin came to the much-needed conclusion that secondary partners matter—and winds up being an eloquent, full-throated defense of how everyone’s needs in poly relationships must be met, not just primaries. An excellent summary of the bad early days of poly, and a reminder of how far we’ve come.”
—Ferrett Steinmetz, Nebula-nominated science fiction author
Franklin Veaux is the co-author of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory and the author of the top-ranked polyamory website morethantwo.com. He is also the creator of Onyx: The Game of Sexual Exploration and the co-founder of the Canadian high-tech sex toy company Tacit Pleasures. He has five partners and lives in Portland, Oregon, where he writes erotica and blogs about polyamory, BDSM, transhumanism, science and pseudoscience, and anything else that catches his attention.