Alicia Bunyan-Sampson is terrible at telling lies, even the “white lies” that help smooth over awkward situations and avoid painful conversations. This inability makes some things, like living with mental illness as a black woman, a challenge. It makes other things, like having a monogamous relationship, impossible.
For Alicia, a polyamorous life is an honest one. It speaks true to her history growing up in a nontraditional blended family. And it allows her to speak truth to her experiences as a person with conflicting identities, struggling to reconcile her life as a polyamorous black woman with the intersecting stigmas and stereotypes that afflict those identities.
But sometimes being yourself means being by yourself: the road to Alicia’s realization of a relationship free of dishonesty is paved with isolation, social awkwardness, and alienation.
No Filter is a personal genealogy, tracing the origins of what is often thought of as a purely modern model for relationships back to the earliest impressions of a woman’s history.
Dossie and I have been described as big sisters (if your big sister is a slutty kinky aging hippie); Franklin and Eve are more like wise neighbors. Think of the guy on the other side of the fence on Home Improvement, calm and wise and funny. Dossie and I write primarily about the sexual aspects of poly; Franklin and Eve are more interested in the day-to-day living part. Dossie and I like to indulge ourselves, just a little, in high-flown realms of abstraction and idealism; Franklin and Eve like to keep their feet on the ground.
—From the foreword by Janet Hardy, co-author of The Ethical Slut
It is a pleasure to read and is full of ideas helpful to anyone in, or considering, multiple consensual open loving relationships.
—David S. Hall, Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality
Franklin and Eve’s new groundbreaking book is a must-read deep dive into the psychology, morality, and practicalities of non-monogamy done well. Buy two copies—one for yourself and one for that friend who is going to insist on borrowing it.
—Pepper Mint, sex educator and polyamory activist
If creating strong relationships where partners feel cherished, safe and fully able to advocate for their needs is something that you care about, I strongly recommend that you pick up this book. I’d encourage even monogamous people to read this book on the merits of the tools and guidelines it provides. Trust me. You will never read a relationship book that so challenges you to be a better human being to those you love.
—A.V. Flox, founder and editor in chief at Slantist
Alicia Bunyan-Sampson is a writer/director, advocate and academic. Her work primarily focuses on her identity as a black woman, an exploration of her own experiences of trauma and love, and a deliberate experimentation with the intersection of white supremacy and black identity. Her films have been shown in Toronto, New York and San Diego, and have aired on CBC, Bell Fibe TV and Aspire TV. She is currently developing a series of workshops for black women living with trauma and mental illness, and a lecture series that focuses on polyamory and the black community. Alicia really hates bios, as they never reflect her charm, wit and sardonic sense of humor.